On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in divorce on Thursday, February 27, 2020.
When Kansas parents get a divorce, their children may struggle to cope with the fallout of that decision. In some cases, they may believe that they were the ones who caused the marriage to end. It is important that they understand that there was nothing they could do to prevent the divorce from taking place. It is also important that a child has someone to talk to when the need arises.
In some cases, it can be healthy and appropriate for kids to talk with their parents when they are feeling sad, anxious or nervous. Ideally, children will not feel compelled to devote their loyalty to one parent at the expense of the other. Furthermore, they shouldn’t feel compelled to act as a messenger.
Parents should be expected to conduct themselves as adults and to not let their negative feelings for each other known to their children. Children are encouraged to not spend time trying to put a failed marriage back together. Instead, they should focus on sticking to their routine and enjoying their childhood as much as they possible can. Ideally, a child will not try to take on a leadership role around the house in the aftermath of a divorce.
Parents who are going through a divorce are encouraged to make decisions that are in their children’s best interest. This may mean settling a divorce through mediation as opposed to going to trial. It may also mean splitting physical custody of a child with the other parent instead of opting for sole custody. However, this typically only works when a parent does not pose a danger to the child.